With Thanksgiving this week, I thought it would be a good idea to post about what it’s like for a person with anxiety during the thanksgiving holiday. (In my perspective of course) Here are 3 of the bigger struggles I face:
- Committing to help: for the past 2 months I’ve been telling my mom that I will make the mashed potatoes for the dinner and the past week leading up to Thanksgiving I have found myself obsessing about it. It seems so silly to obsess about making a pot of potatoes, however this is what my brain has been telling me… “There’s going to be lots of people over the day of, what if I mess up one of the main parts of dinner? What if the day of Thanksgiving I get overwhelmed with the noise in the kitchen. Maybe I should prepare it the night before, no I can’t do that there is no room in the fridge. I don’t want to cause issues, but I committed…” This is just a snippet of what goes on. Anyways, after talking with my mom we decided that it was okay to switch jobs. I will be in charge of the veggie tray so that I can prepare it the night before and have a better environment to keep myself calm. It can be hard to ask for help or accommodations but it’s worth it.
- Socializing at the dinner table: Thanksgiving is so much fun, getting to spend time with the ones you love is priceless. As much fun as it is, it can be very stressful for those of us with social anxiety. Even if it’s just with family, the noise can overwhelm people. So, if I just sit and smile just remember it’s not that I don’t want to say anything, it’s that I’m trying to keep calm.
- Hiding until dinner: This one is relatable to the previous one. Basically, being around a lot of people is overwhelming and can cause anxiety. Sometimes a person who struggles just needs some time to breathe. So, if they need to go into another room and listen to music or go sit outside it’s not because they’re angry, they just need time to adapt to the busy environment. In my last post I mentioned that people who struggle with anxiety understand that they can be overwhelming to be around. Part of why I go to be by myself during these gatherings is because I don’t want people to see me anxious and don’t want to draw too much attention to myself.
Thanksgiving is wonderful and it brings family together. It can be even more enjoyable when we all are considerate of others and just enjoy the moment.
I want to thank everyone who has helped me this year. My parents especially have been so beyond patient and understanding. Thank you for reading my posts and supporting me. It means so much! I hope you all have a Happy Thanksgiving.